On 3. for example:
- You could try to convince the officer that someone gave it to you as a souvenir plant from Bali and you did not know what it is exactly. They can test you and found out you do not smoke. This will show you are ready to lie and disregard laws in order to protect your love ones.
- You can let your wife take the blame which will reveal you may disregard justice and you like yourself more than others (who would truly say that in a test?).
- You can let the child go to jail or die because laws (not necessarily justice as a personal definition) are beyond everything for you and responsibilities should be assumed. One might think then what responsibilities do you have: as a parent, you should have taught your son not to do this (or not to get caught), and you have a duty as a father and husband toward your son and wife, respectively.

I am no shrink but I am sure you can expand much further the personal characteristics these tests reveal when in extreme situations. Also bear in mind you usually don’t have much time to think when placed in a real situation.

So, the dilemma is about watching your spouse go to jail for something your son did and not intervening, or watching your son go to jail. But, then, if you take the blame, then your spouse will be in the moral dilemma of watching you take the blame, and not taking the blame herself or letting the son be responsible and ‘fess up.

It’s a moral dilemma within a moral dilemma.

Oh. my. god.

You must convince the wife that there is no respite for her husband, nor hope – he is going to jail for probably the rest of his life. People may even fight for a death penalty; either ways, his fate is sealed. We have three options: 1) We can put it out in the media that we have enough evidence to consider if you’re also involved with the terrorist attacks to, at least, the point of having knowledge of them, and this would clearly ruin the rest of your life, and your sons future… well, you might as well leave the country, because the people will have death threats coming down your way – you’re life will be hell, and your son will be bullied. 2) If you don’t help us, we’re more than happy to use torture Spanish Inquisition style. 3) Then there’s the third option: Knowing your husband is anyway going to rot in jail, you could help us get the truth out of him (I’m sure you have that much humanity in you) by acting. Pure simple acting. We tell people you wilfully volunteered, and you come out as a hero. Your husband sees a tortured wife and child – he ‘fesses up. If he doesn’t, I’m sorry ma’am, you just married an even worse douchebag than we thought he was, and we’ll just have to flog him or something.

I think I’ve seen this on the telly.

Also, you need to relax. Honestly, I am against torture, war and any kind of violence. But, if there’s a man out there who attacks you, you need to attack back. In this case, sure, torturing HIM or his family could lead to him divulging false information, too. It could make matters worse internationally. It could encourage other terrorists or wannabe-terrorists. So, if no other creative solution works, the human mind will naturally consider torture a mechanism to reveal the truth. But, I think it’s better to make him believe we’re torturing his family than torture him.

Many things shouldn’t be happening in the world, but they do. I live in India, and few months back my best friend saw a dead baby girl in the sewage. Nobody gave a *****. It shouldn’t happen, but it does and nobody cares. I think things like these are more important morally than that one person you reluctantly choose to torture because thousands of lives are in danger, and you make a hoopla about it. This isn’t torturing innocent men or men who haven’t been proved guilty. This isn’t about Abu Ghraib style injustice. This is one arrogant guy who’s admitted to planting bombs across a city to kill innocent men, women and children. This is why it’s a moral dilemma.

Vaat to do, meyn?

On the other hand, you could generally tell your colleagues to stop using the company address to receive private emails, or you’d have to complain to the boss. Then, you could leave a note on her desk that reads: “I know you’re having an affair.” After a series of nasty looks, taunts and threats, fake your own death. Then after a few months, have someone leave another note on her desk this time with the words “I still know you’re having an affair.”

Please… use common sense.

From a rational point-of-view, you wouldn’t want your spouse taking the blame, as it would be easier for both adults to work some way out of the problem with the help of the Embassy to, at least, reduce the sentence of your son on the grounds of him being a borderline retard that pretty much ruined your lives with one split-second decision.

Although, considering it’s a foreign country (Bali, of all), we don’t know how well you can get out of such situations, but it’s better to be in a situation with two thinking adults fighting for you than one with a distraught spouse (who may love her son, but still develop a grudge against him) and a guilt-ridden powerless teenager.

Also, if the case attracted national/international curiosity, the general public would see the father as bad and selfish caregiver who just ruined his wife (worse if she doesn’t work) and son’s lives, being more interested in his drug habits than the safety of his family. If he smokes up then what kind of an example is he to his kids? Does his wife do it, too? Are they encouraging drug habits in the house? What kind of character does the father have? What is the father’s personal history? What did he do in college? It’s just weed, but these ARE the types of questions a regular parent will ask.

On the other hand, if it’s the child, then people will think he’s just a stupid kid doing what stupid kids do – being stupid and careless. They’ll raise the same stock questions against the parents that most people are familiar with thanks to popular family cases, and it’s easier to answer them. In the end, he’s young, stupid and everybody makes mistakes… and this one was a very bad and dangerous one, but he shouldn’t be victimised for it, let alone be brutally punished. I’d be more livid and worried if he had coke on him.