Top 10 Politically Incorrect Kids Books
Published on December 3, 2007 - 72 Comments
Unfortunately, in modern times, the responsibility of raising your children to be respectful of others has been taken over by government. In virtually every Western nation, political correctness is rife and books are being torn from the shelves by the handful. Some of these books make their way back, with revisions, but some have vanished entirely (at least for now). This is a list of the top 10 books considered to be politically incorrect.
10. Little House on the Prairie 1935, Laura Ingalls Wilder
This book is considered off limits now because of its treatment of American Indians (the Osage figure prominently in the story). Despite the fact that Laura Ingalls Wilder gives us a important historical look at social perspectives through this book, it is still considered bad. The book is based on decades-old memories of Laura Ingalls Wilder’s childhood in the Midwest region of the United States during the late 19th century.
9. Huckleberry Finn 1884, Mark Twain
Huckleberry Finn is undoubtedly the most challenged book in American history - to this day attempts are made to make the book more “suitable” for a modern audience. Although the Southern society it satirized was already a quarter-century in the past by the time of publication, the book immediately became controversial, and has remained so to this day. CBS Television went so far as to produce a made-for-TV version of Huck Finn that included no black cast members, no mention of slavery, and without the critical character Jim.
8. Kim 1900, Rudyard Kipling
Kim is about an Anglo-Irish boy on his travells across the Indian continent. Its depiction of Colonial India has caused it to be considered controversial by many people. Kipling is, of course, most famous for his Jungle Book.
7. Babar the Elephant 1931, Jean de Brunhoff
Babar the Elephant is a popular French children’s fictional character who first appeared in L’Histoire de Babar. Some writers, have argued that, although superficially delightful, the stories are politically and morally offensive for their justification of French colonialist ideas.
6. Noddy and Bigears 1949, Enid Blyton
Noddy and Bigears are two characters by Enid Blyton who have recently been under scrutiny and even accused of homosexuality for various scenes in the books in which they share a bed. This is entirely ridiculous, but it has meant that modern editions of the books have had those scenes removed, as well as any mention of the naughty golliwogs that live in the woods.
5. Dr Dolittle 1920, Hugh Lofting
The books have been accused of racism, due to the usage of derogatory terms for and depiction of certain ethnic groups therein, both written and illustrated. Editions in the United States sometimes had alterations made from the 1960s, but the books went out-of-print in the 1970s. In 1986, to mark the centenary of Lofting’s birth, new editions were published which had such passages rewritten or removed (sometimes called bowdlerisation). Offending illustrations were either removed (and replaced with unpublished Lofting originals) or altered.
4. Little Black Sambo 1899, Helen Bannerman
Despite this book being about an Indian boy, the illustrations in the original European version portray Sambo using “darky iconography”, with black skin, wildly curly hair, and bright red lips. The word “sambo” has a long history as a racial slur against blacks. Because the story itself does not contain any racist ideas, recent publications remain tell the same story, with new images to replace the originals.
3. The Three Golliwogs 1946, Enid Blyton
The Three Golliwogs is a book about three friendly golliwogs that discover an abandoned house in the woods and move in. The controversy over this book (and in fact, many of Blyton’s books) lies simply in the fact that the Golliwog character is now deemed to be racist. Golliwogs have been depicted as both villains and heroes.
2. Tintin au Congo 1930, Hergé
Tintin in the Congo has often been criticized as having racist and colonialist views, as well as several scenes of violence against animals. Hergé has later claimed that he was only portraying the naïve views of the time. When the album was redrawn in 1946, Hergé removed several references to the fact that the Congo was at that time a Belgian colony.
1. Ten Little Niggers 1860, Septimus Winner
I am sure no one needs to be told why this rhyme is now considered to be politically incorrect. It is found in the adults novel Ten Little Niggers which is now called “And Then there were None” - it is Christie’s best selling novel. It is derived from the original rhyme by Septimus Winner which was written for his minstrel show, but in his original it was called Ten Little Injuns.
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1. Shabab - December 3rd, 2007 at 8:22 am
U should do a ‘politically incorrect kids movies’ list too…there are plenty of those….also…Yeah baby first comment !
2. MadBess - December 3rd, 2007 at 8:23 am
There is another “Little House” book where Pa Ingalls dresses up as black face. I think that would be more controversial than Little House on the Prairie. I still love those books though. I grew up reading them. I think instead of people pulling them off the shelves, adults need to be honest with kids and say, “Look, this is how it was, but lets talk about how and why it wasn’t right.”
3. alien_girl01 - December 3rd, 2007 at 8:34 am
In what year was #1 written?
4. Kelsi - December 3rd, 2007 at 8:46 am
Lol @ number 1, and a big wtf. Still, a of of what was written wasn’t politically incorrect for the time, but looking at it now we’re like, HOLY CRAP!!
5. christopherborne - December 3rd, 2007 at 9:03 am
What about the original edition of Charlie and the CHocolate Factory. You know, the one where the Oompa-Loompas were members of a tribe of African pygmies.
6. Yarr - December 3rd, 2007 at 9:05 am
Editing books to be ‘politically correct’ is wrong.
Erasing history is dangerous.
7. JT - December 3rd, 2007 at 9:07 am
Wasn’t Ten little Niggers the original title of the Agatha Christie novel? It was then changed to Ten Little Indians, but then that was thought to be politically incorrect, and now it’s called And Then There Was None.
8. FekketCantenel - December 3rd, 2007 at 9:07 am
#1 made me laugh out loud!
#3 reminded me of the first time I ever learned about Scientology - from an old SKTFM episode. In it, the cohost, Cimm, heard the term ‘wog’ (which provided them much hilarity) and thought it was a reference to ‘that book you read in school’. The host, Sean, thought he was thinking of gugs, ‘HP Lovecraft monsters with mouths that open sideways’. Now I see that Cimm was actually thinking of the Golliwogs.
9. Cat Skyfire - December 3rd, 2007 at 9:16 am
I remember the first time I noticed changing something for ‘pc reasons’. I had Mary Poppins, wherein they visit the four points of the compass. North had Eskimos, South had Jungle People, East had a Mandarin, and West had Native Americans. I received another copy of the book as a gift, but the people had been replaced by animals, polar bear, panda bear, dolphin, and I think Macaw. It struck me as odd, but I recognized that some of the depictions weren’t ‘acceptable now’.
10. PO - December 3rd, 2007 at 9:45 am
I hate political correctness, it limits free speech and majorly distorts history. I try and be pertty politically incorrect whenever I can, especially around people it upsets
11. ianrey - December 3rd, 2007 at 9:46 am
I wouldn’t put it on the list, because it’s so obscure, but check out Mickey Mouse and the Boy Thursday. “This my brother name Thursday. I sendum to you for edumcation … You keep rest of bananas for pay.” Mickey receives an African boy in the mail, he goes through some Curious George-style hijinks, Mickey is put on trial for a public nuisance, and tries to sell the boy to the circus. Remember the Magic.
http://sickopath.com/mmbtp1.html
12. Juggz - December 3rd, 2007 at 10:21 am
I would like to echo PO’s comment. While some of these go a little far, they are still a sign of those times at which they were written and i feel changing them is form of censorship. And whether they offend or not, censorship is worse then offending someone.
13. jfrater - December 3rd, 2007 at 10:52 am
Okay - I have added date/author data for number one.
14. 9000 - December 3rd, 2007 at 10:57 am
When Huck Finn chose eternal damnation over turning in his friend Jim, it was my first realization that not all laws are right, and that sometimes its better to break the rules.
I named my son Huckleberry.
I wonder if he’ll ever get to read about his namesake in school. If not, he sure as hell will at home.
15. SocialButterfly - December 3rd, 2007 at 11:08 am
I can’t believe that the ‘Little House’ books are being left out now. I loved those books as a kid (I’m 27).
16. Budz - December 3rd, 2007 at 11:09 am
“as well as any mention of the naughty golliwogs that live in the woods.”
My toddler watches Noddy cartoons daily and there are Goblins in them .. maybe thats what the golliwogs became in our PC times?
17. jfrater - December 3rd, 2007 at 11:15 am
Budz: I do believe that goblins were added to replace the golliwogs.
18. jfrater - December 3rd, 2007 at 11:17 am
JT: yes - though it was originally 10 little injuns.
19. jfrater - December 3rd, 2007 at 11:18 am
Yarr: I totally agree!
christopherborne: I don’t remember that - maybe it was expunged by the time I read it.
20. Marco - December 3rd, 2007 at 12:50 pm
Battle political correctness with all your might, before bookburning becomes fashionable again.
21. Camille - December 3rd, 2007 at 1:48 pm
I reread the Little House books last spring and think they should be required reading for all kids. Yes there’s some negatives, but there are a lot of positives, too. They show that hard work is important but that things don’t always turn out the way you expect them to. They teach that kids should listen, behave, and respect their elders. Most important, they teach that material things are unimportant as long as you have family and friends. You can’t help but realize how spoiled we all are today when just a century or so ago, it was a huge deal to get a piece of hard candy for Christmas.
22. mooster - December 3rd, 2007 at 2:26 pm
I agree with those who are criticizing the editing of old books to modernize them for today’s sensibilities. To sanitize history is to render it meaningless; that’s why high school history classes are so boring. However, I notice that a lot of people who complain about “PC” (not those here!) are just complaining about being called out on their current rudeness, so I personally avoid the term.
23. mooster - December 3rd, 2007 at 2:26 pm
Oh, crap; did I actually make a serious post here??? Sorry!
24. JJ - December 3rd, 2007 at 2:33 pm
i’m totally against P.C. i’m black and i hate being refered to as african canadian, i’m not from africa never lived in africa never will live in africa,, hell after some research i found out my ancestors were in the U.S. since the 1600’s i think a few hundred years is long enuff to drop the african,,, i’m canadian end of sentence ,,hell i’m not even offended by the word NIGGER ,, people have gotten way to sensitive these days
25. Sarah - December 3rd, 2007 at 2:49 pm
ya I agree with JJ
26. Ian - December 3rd, 2007 at 3:57 pm
Herge was deeply hurt when he realised how Tintin in the Congo was received within a few decades after publications… that’s why he consciously tried to be more realistic with indigineous populations in later books (such as Blue Lotus, Picaros etc.)
27. Emily - December 3rd, 2007 at 4:32 pm
omgosh the little house books are my favorite books. As soon as I saw the title of this list I knew they would (or should) be on here, though. Like commenter #2, I grew up reading this series of books. We even read them in elementary school as a class and that wasn’t that long ago (i’m 23). They are great books and I still enjoy reading them, but I totally agree that they are a little politically incorrect. I will say this though: The books are not NEARLY as potically incorrect as the TV series was.
28. MadBess - December 3rd, 2007 at 5:15 pm
I still don’t even think that the Little House books are all that politically incorrect. Especially the references to Indians in Little House on the Prairie. As I recall, Laura was fascinated by Indians. I don’t remember anything being derogatory. There are so many more great things about those books. So much about how ordinary life was lived that you wouldn’t be able to imagine without books like these.
29. Emily - December 3rd, 2007 at 5:17 pm
well, the books said that the mother ‘hated’ indians, but ‘pa’ always spoke well of them. i don’t even think that was all that bad; the blackface is what came to my mind.
30. Bree - December 3rd, 2007 at 5:26 pm
I agree with all of you who loved the Little House books. And the Prairie isn’t the only one. I seem to remember in “The First Four Years”, an Indian came to the house while Laura’s husband was away and asked her to be his squaw. Would they have deleted the fact that she slapped his face for it? PC…ruining childhood memories and historical facts the world over.
31. MadBess - December 3rd, 2007 at 5:36 pm
Emily, yeah I definitely agree about the blackface part. I didn’t even understand what that was when I read it as a kid. That’s right, Ma didn’t like Indians (it’s all coming back to me). Once again, instead of banning it from school, maybe there should be a good ol’ “Why do people fear what they don’t understand” discussion. I love the Little House books with a passion and if I have kids they will read them, PC or not.
32. niteflytes - December 3rd, 2007 at 6:17 pm
I want a copy of each of these books! An original or a copy before they were made PC.
33. xgray09x - December 3rd, 2007 at 6:50 pm
love the book huck fin when i was young..
34. kittym - December 3rd, 2007 at 7:17 pm
In my opinion, banning books like The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn from school because they are “politically incorrect” is a way for some parents (not all) to excuse their parenting skills that may be lacking. I grew up reading Babar and Little House. Huck Finn was one of my favourite reads during school, and I understand perfectly well that that was what was acknowledged as acceptable during that time period, and not what is acceptable today. Why? My parents taught me so. Censorship is dangerous, omitting history is pointless, and the sooner parents realise that Seasame Street is not the reason their children aren’t developing properly, the better.
35. The Dum Guy - December 3rd, 2007 at 7:23 pm
I just re-read Huck Fin earlier this year for an American Lit-Class, and was surprised how some see this as rascist, other than the fact the word ‘nigger’ is used alot. The character of Jim is one of the few (if any) characters that show any real moral fortitude and , just as 9000 wrote, the part where Huck chooses to go to hell in order to help Jim is IMO the point of the novel.
I’m semi-ranting, but God, how I hate the current PC mentality we live in.
36. Emily - December 3rd, 2007 at 7:40 pm
MadBess: you and I would probably be good friends, lol. I visited Laura’s home in MO when I was 8, and for our first anniversary my husband took me back there, as well as to the little house replica near Independence, Ks, and to De Smet, SD. It was so awesome. =)
37. aplspud - December 3rd, 2007 at 7:56 pm
I get very annoyed when people call me white. I try to explain to them that I am GalEurAsian-American. When will the hatred end?
I am against PC censorship, but I think introductions or afterwords should be added to some of these books to give historical perspective.
38. sdggrant - December 3rd, 2007 at 8:52 pm
Did you really name your kid Huckleberry??? Sorry, that made me lol. I knew a boy in school named Misty(real name)!!!
But back on topic, pc laws are HORRIBLE! I just read that in Australia(forget which part) that the Santa Claus’ in the malls are no longer allowed to say HO HO HO! because it is offensive to women. GIVE ME A BREAK!
39. MadBess - December 3rd, 2007 at 9:32 pm
Emily, we would be good friends! Going to the Laura Ingalls Wilder Home is on my list of things to do before I die. How lucky you are!
40. Bad News - December 3rd, 2007 at 10:05 pm
To be honest, I really hate the term/idea “politically correct”. Please substitute “polite” in its place, because that’s really what it is. See, if I said everyone who believes otherwise is an asshole, that’s not being politically incorrect, that’s just being impolite.
Certainly, there are overly sensitive people walking among us. But I, for one, will not refuse to repudiate offensive characterizations simply because the remainder of the work is brilliant. And I will not let my kids read something that refers to them using painfully offensive terms, at least until they are old enough to have that long talk with me/wifey about the context.
I happen to love Mark Twain, but I still think “Political Correctness” means “I’m so tired of being compassionate”.
41. Lasse - December 3rd, 2007 at 11:09 pm
I read that the first season of Sesame Street just was released on DVD. With the notion that it is unsuitable for kids, and only intended for adults. Because of political correctness.
By the way. I must deeply protest that i am judged by the imperialist-colonial stereotype just because of my white skin.
42. kittym - December 4th, 2007 at 12:01 am
Since when is sixteen/seventeen too young to read Huckleberry Finn? Do parents honestly think their kids haven’t grown accustomed to hearing worse from their friends’ mouths by that age?
On a sidenote, I am amused when certain adults try to ban the older cartoons like Bugs Bunny and whatnot from television to prevent their children from watching the “violence”, when they themselves grew up on those very stories. Did those cartoons convince said adults to hunt down sarcastic rabbits, or wear abnormally large hats and shoot pistols in the air? Or do they believe their children are dumber than they themselves were? Are we suddenly breeding brainless idiots who will blindingly do whatever they see on television, whilst ignoring anything their parents say to them?
43. Mikerodz - December 4th, 2007 at 7:06 am
Just thingking,if those kid books are really “incorrect”, there will be no jfrater, juggs, stewriter, Kelsi and other sharp mind in this forum. I bet we can find very few hard core felons knew about this books
44. jfrater - December 4th, 2007 at 7:21 am
Bad News: I don’t agree that political correctness is polite - the books above are not bad mannered - they were not written with the intention of hurting or offending - it is wrong to judge them by modern standards which have changed. And rewriting history is never good - even if done under the guise of politeness.
45. Dandelion - December 4th, 2007 at 7:35 am
Oh come on.. I love many of those books and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with them. Yeah, they might be a bit politically incorrect, but what isn’t these days? Why do people have to make everything so hard?
46. Yarr - December 4th, 2007 at 7:58 am
A couple of local book stores here in Houston do a ‘Banned Book’ month at different times of the year. It’s cool because they’ll find older, unedited editions of the books and put note cards on them explaining why each book was banned, what was edited, etc.
I’m in a bookstore probably once a week, so I always try to get the goods. I have all kinds of old ratty paperbacks that will definitely get my house burned down when 451 finds out about them.
Funny. I was going to put a smiley emoticon at the end of that post, but then realized it’s not really funny at all…
47. DiscHuker - December 4th, 2007 at 7:10 pm
yarr, i’m from H-town also. small world.
as far as being PC, think about how many of the things that your great-grandparents believed that you are offended by. that is less than 100 years ago. here is the point…what do you currently believe that your great-grandchildren will be offended by? we cannot condemn the past because we have no perspective on how offensive we currently are.
think of the decisions that you made even just 10 years ago. what percentage of them would you consider unwise or just plain dumb? i would have to say a large portion for myself. the follow up question…what is your current percentage?
get my point?
48. Yarr - December 5th, 2007 at 7:11 am
DiscHuker: What part?
49. DiscHuker - December 5th, 2007 at 7:42 am
tomball, northwest of the beltway
50. Barnacle - December 5th, 2007 at 8:07 am
sdggrant:
The santas here in Melbourne have to say Ha Ha Ha
or Hey Hey Hey or some such bull.
There are some old-school santas who are standing up to these ridiculous measures or quite simply forgetting and they are getting fired. Talk about enthusiasm for tradition. Ho is not really a popular aussie slang term. We prefer the more homely ones like skank, slut, slapper, mole, et al.
Also, about the novel Kim, i remember reading that the main character tries to change his eye colour by eating poppy seeds or something. I remember that part only. Strange.
51. Yarr - December 5th, 2007 at 3:38 pm
I work with Gary’s Spot and Molly’s Pub out there. Nice area. I’m on the west side.
52. Hemanth - January 3rd, 2008 at 7:16 am
The books reflect the morals of the time that they were written in, to bowdlerize them would be to ignore how far we have come. In a hundred years or so from now, I guess patriotism will be considered politically incorrect, something to think about.
53. Alycia - January 18th, 2008 at 7:41 am
hahaha they made me laugh
i reckon theres a golliwog doll in my house
54. Cec - January 25th, 2008 at 5:35 am
I don’t believe in sanitizing books , but at the same time , children have to be taught that racism was wrong then and is wrong now. It’s important that children know that just because it’s in print , doesn’t make it right. I grew up in a very racist environment and believe it or not , I learned quite a bit of my morals through comic books. I know. A sad commentary on life.
55. dastex - January 29th, 2008 at 6:30 am
I think that calling some of these books “politically incorrect” oversimplifies the problem. Of course we should never start down the road of censoring the press. First ammendment rights will trump (almost) anything. However books lke “10 little niggers” really don’t have any place in the 21st century except as a historical reminder of how things used to be. There’s no liberal conspiracy here folks its just that we’ve moved on as a species and evolved.
56. Hector - January 30th, 2008 at 5:50 am
Tintin au Congo is the worst albul Hergé ever made. His excuse for being such a racist moron (”he was only portraying the naïve views of the time”) is stupid, disdainful and weak-kneed. That’s too bad, there are some good albums he made later, but he really should have apologized for what he did.
57. charles - January 30th, 2008 at 8:44 am
These books DO have a place in the 21st century, for exactly that reason. Reading these books, with the understanding of ‘this was the way it was back then’ will not only open up the mind to the TRUE history (not some left-wing wacko re-editing of it) of our world.
Al Sharpton should stand up with ‘Little Black Sambo’ in his hand, with nationwide TV cameras on, and say ‘Look at the progress we have made since then!’ insteady of decrying a century-old book as being racist. Hello, duh. It probably is, but in 1899, thats kinda the way things worked back then. Take these books off the ‘banned’ list, and make them a ‘must-read’ list of ’see how things have changed for the better’.
58. SarahJ - January 30th, 2008 at 3:32 pm
I love these books - I have most of them too! Unfortunately not number 1 or 2 though
59. jfrater - January 30th, 2008 at 3:37 pm
SarahJ: I can easily get number 2 for you - but I am not sure where you could get number 1 as I am sure it isn’t printed anymore. It would have to be abebooks.com I think. 2 was recently in the press here because a government agency said it should be banned - suddenly sales shot through the roof and everyone is buying it
60. sarahj - January 30th, 2008 at 5:41 pm
thanks jfrater. I might even take a trip to the book dealer here in waterloo - he stocks all sorts but he deals in alot as well and is well known.:)
61. satori - January 30th, 2008 at 11:14 pm
Remember all the controversy over “The Catcher in the Rye”? I think there are still some groups opposing it.
62. Polly Odyssey - January 31st, 2008 at 5:27 pm
I like some of these books.
And btw yes there are still people who oppose Catcher In The Rye
63. Peter - February 19th, 2008 at 8:27 am
Uh, on Number 1: Ten Little Niggers, I read this in my senior year of high school and was told that when and where the book was originally published, “Nigger”/”Nigard?” meant someone who was cheap with there money, not a black person.
Don’t know if its true or not, just pointing it out.
64. Catriona - February 25th, 2008 at 12:48 am
Here in NZ there is currently an exhibition on ‘Controversial’ and ‘Once Banned’ children’s books. A book that has been identified is ‘Mickey in the night Kitchen’ which has been a favourite of all my boys and Jamie, if I remember rightly. The reason..for showing genitalia. Funny thing is, none of my boys have ever said anything, or even noticed that young Mickey is ‘exposing’ himself! The opening paragraph of the article is quite clever…
“Oh hurrah, Quentins packed the picnic basket with lashings of organic salad greens and low fat, no salt, wholegrain bread,” cries Georgina as she and her cousins, Anne, Julian and Rick, head for the playground, their SPCA vaccinated and neutered dog Timmy in tow.
65. jfrater - February 25th, 2008 at 12:56 am
Catriona: haha that is hilarious! And yes, I did love Mickey in the Night Kitchen!
66. Mandz - March 12th, 2008 at 5:44 pm
Aww… now I feel kind of bad. As a young kid, I learned the nursery rhyme Ten Little Injuns and that was in the 90s. Of course we said “indians” instead. But still, its politically incorrect.
I seem to remember there being an animated Barbar the Elephant kids show. May I just imagined it.
As for 9 and 10, I’ve read both. We read Huckleberry Finn in 8th grade, and we had to have a permission slip signed before we started reading it.
67. Frazzzld - March 23rd, 2008 at 8:10 am
My grandma use to read us “Little Black Sambo” when we were young… I was suprised and delighted to see it mentioned. Talk about memories flooding back… and she had another one called “In the house that Jack built” that she would read to us as well.
68. cat - April 6th, 2008 at 1:27 am
THis problem with banning books seems to be particularly an American thing=I guess partly because of the Constitution.
though I has happened in the UK, I don’t really remember any instances in NZ where I grew Up.
So far as politically correctness goes -It’s quite scary to think I remember singing that rhyme eenie meanie miney mo catch a nigger (now Tigger is used) by the toe…etc I had no idea what nigger meant!
And Tintin..I love Tintin-but I remember being a little shocked reading the Congo one where Tintin is teaching the little african children geography-He points to a map pf Belguim and talks about it being their country-something like that.
I find it very interesting hearing about the American situation with books -mostly seems so ridiculous!
69. JazJ - May 24th, 2008 at 8:50 pm
I think this list shows just how far political correctness has destroyed literary masterpieces. If you are offended, be offended by the fact that these things were thought of or that the time was that way and how much progress may or may not have been made. True depictions in my opinion can only help to show progression of where we are going and it is dumb to not let your children not understand how much things have changed and how they can continue to change them. But, to ignore history is to push something under a rug and that will only lead to future torment.
70. Vera Lynn - June 23rd, 2008 at 10:11 pm
I admit, I skipped most of the comments because this strikes a chord in me. Let kids read what they want. Any reading is good in this era of video games. But be there to discuss and explain. If your son/daughter asks a question they are asking you for info. This is not a judgement call. Give it to them straight. They can handle it. That is why they are asking. They are looking to you for guidence. They are trying to sort things out in their mind and they ask the adults they trust (you). Answer them honestly.They will know if you are not. Keep the lanes of trust and info open. You will never regret it.